Discernment Counselling

Should I stay or should I leave?  That is the question.   The answer however is complicated and that is probably why you have been asking yourself this question for so long.  

Discernment Counselling is for couples where one partner is wanting to stay and work on the relationship and the other is unsure or contemplating leaving. Or perhaps you are both unsure and cannot see how change is possible and so contemplate separation as a way of managing your distress.

Discernment counselling is not relationship counselling

It just means your agenda is not necessarily re-building or strengthening (that might come next) but the aim is to understand how you got to be where you are currently. To make sense of your current relationship and whether you want to commit to each other and do the work required to get your relationship back to where you would like it to be. Couples and Individuals in this situation can….

• do nothing and the relationship remains the same

• move towards separation and divorce, navigating the best possible outcome for all, hopefully avoiding costly solicitors fees. If you decide on divorce you will take the learning about yourself in relationship and use it in future relationships. Discernment Counselling can also support your co-parenting relationship if you have children.

• take divorce off the table for a period of time, honour the relationship and the good you have had by understanding how you reached this point and to explore the possibility of re-connection.